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Facing Facts (A Cuckold’s Perspective)[A cuckold husband talks about his experience as a cuckold, and other related issues pertaining to his experiences. Inspired by my good friends A, and her husband T.]Q. Doesn’t it ever bother you, even a little, that Mara’s carrying another guys baby, instead of yours?A. No, it doesn’t. I’ve been asked that question a lot. It seems difficult for a lot of people to understand that.Q. Is it true that you and your wife are planning on her having another baby, and by another guy?A. Yes, that’s true. We’re making plans to fly back to Africa (but to a different country this time instead of Kenya, like we did almost a year ago), and for a different African male to impregnate her. She and I both want to have at least three, and maybe four c***dren; and we want them all to have African fathers.Q. So, you are not planning on getting Mara pregnant yourself? Not even once?A. No. Even before we got married, we’d already discussed that. Mara has always been interested in African culture and it’s history, and she’s always be very interested in having an African-fathered baby; and I found that extremely compelling, as well as more than a little exciting.Q. So why would Mara want to marry you, if she wasn’t necessarily interested in wanting to have a baby with you? Most married couples do have a baby together. Mostly. But not you. I find that fascinating. Can you explain that?A. That’s complicated. But, essentially, Mara and I both grew up here in Europe learning about how Africa has been so mistreated and exploited by, well, whites; by Caucasians (like Mara and I), and we couldn’t help but feel ashamed of that.When we met, and started dating, she was very upfront about her interests in Africa, and, as we got closer, she admitted that she wanted to have an African-fathered baby someday as well. By then I’d fallen in love with Mara, and I wanted her and I to be balıkesir escort married. When I told her that, she was flattered, of course. But, she said that if we did get married, that she wanted a black baby; and that whoever she did marry would have to accept that; and I immediately told her that I wouldn’t object to that at all! She wasn’t convinced I was truly serious at first, but we kept dating, and the more saw each other, the more in love with her I fell, and after about a year, we decided to get married (with the proviso that I would not object to her having an African-fathered c***d, of course)!Neither of our parents knew about our agreement that she would have an African baby. We didn’t really think that far ahead.Q. How did you go about finding an African sperm donor?A. At first, she and I thought about going the in vitro fertilization route, and we looked into the price for that, and the amount was huge, and with promise of success. So we kept looking around and thinking, and then one day I suggested she get pregnant the regular way—through intercourse.Q. You suggested that?A. Yes. It just seemed the best, and simplest solution (and by far the cheapest, from a financial view point); and Mara thought it would be more fun, too!Q. So how did you go about locating Omar?A. On KIK. We got to chatting sometimes on line, and we exchanged some pictures (I showed him some of Mara, and he showed some of himself), and he seemed to like what he saw, and Mara liked what she saw of him; and that’s how things evolved from there on.Q. I hope this next question doesn’t offend you (that’s not my intention), but by agreeing not to father your own baby with your wife, and agreeing to allow some other man to do so, does that mean that you see yourself as somehow sexually ‘inferior’ as a man yourself?A. That gets complicated—but, in one way, yes, I do regard myself as sexually escort balıkesir less ‘adequate’ (I’ll use that word for now ) than Omar; and largely because he truly was, and is, sexually superior to me; and so he was the perfect choice to get Mara pregnant. But, let me add here something that’s important to remember—By saying that I think Omar was (and is) sexually superior to me, that does not mean I regard myself as ‘worthless!’ I just see it as being honest about my own sexual virility as a man, and that Omar was (and is) clearly better from a fertility point of view.I had my sperm checked to see what condition it was in, and it was considerably less ‘fertile’ than Omar’s. That was a fact; and objective, quantifiable, fact. Could I get Mara pregnant? Possibly. I’m not sterile. But I already knew that Mara wanted an African-fathered baby; something I already knew she’d wanted for a long time! I knew this marrying her. It was not a surprise she sprung on me one day. I knew, as we were getting married, that our baby would be fathered by an African male, and not by me; and I was fine with that. It was my decision. No one else’s. And that’s what we did.Q. How did Omar treat you?A. Respectfully. He was never derisive towards me. Never. Not even once. During the days Mara and I were in Kenya, and when he was with us in our hotel room, I was never made to feel like a loser, or a fool, or anything derogatory. he entire atmosphere between the three of us was very amicable.Q. Was it obvious that Mara enjoyed her experiences with Omar?A. (Chuckles) Of course it was, and why wouldn’t she have enjoyed that? Omar was a very thoughtful, and very considerate lover! Mara was in excellent hands! I had no doubts whatsoever that she would become pregnant by Omar. It seemed like a foregone conclusion! After all, not only was he the husband of two wives in Zambia, but, he had balıkesir escort bayan fathered NINE c***dren between them! So there was never any doubt as to his fertility, and utility, in getting Mara pregnant! And now she’s three months along.Q. Have you and Mara told either of your parents about the paternity of the baby?A. Not yet, but, we are planning on doing so soon. I think our parents will be a little surprised, initially, but I think they’ll come around to accepting it. We’re both from Catholic families. Yes, at first, the fact that I’M not the baby’s father, will be quite a surprise, but the baby will be welcomed. I have no doubt of that.Q. How do you think your families will think of you?A. (Smiles) Good question. I think, at first, MY parents are going to be confused as to why I’d go along with Mara having another man’s baby. It may be difficult for them to understand my reasons for going along with that; and I’m not so sure I can truly explain that to them; at least in terms they might understand. I’m a little worried about that, but I’m not scared. I just want my parents to love the baby Mara is carrying, whether it’s ‘mine’, or someone else’s. And, I think they will, eventually.My hope is that the baby, and the baby’s fathers origin, will spark a conversation about race relations, too. That’s something Mara is particularly interested in. I am too. Africa has always been treated so horribly by Europe, and I know that Mara and I are not the only ‘white’ couple who have had an interracial baby. Maybe not many, but we are not the first, or only couple to do so in this way. Race is such damaging idea, and not just to blacks to to whites as well. Everyone would benefit a lot if we could minimize the issue of color; and so maybe if there are more white couples like Mara and I who chose to have a baby of color, color will eventually no longer be the issue it is now. At any rate, Mara and I are having this baby, and we’d like to have others in the near future as well.Q. Any idea where next you might consider?A. Were working it, but no definite decisions yet.Q. Thank your for speaking with me about all this.A. Your welcome.The Enddeleted
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